The Late 20’s Blues

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As I sit here sipping my iced coffee…from the greatest creation ever (my Keurig)…I realize that today, I am 27. 27!!! Three years shy of 30 and two years over 25, which means that I have officially entered the late 20’s . Now, I’d realized that my birthday was coming up, but I had never thought about my age until a few weeks ago. Thanks to Facebook.

Realizing that I would soon be 27, I got a little sad. You see, at this age, there are certain goals that I should have obtained by now…..according to society, according to my plan, and even according to some of my family members. By 27, I’m supposed to be well into my career, married with at least one child and paying a mortgage. And to be honest, I thought that all of that would happen by now. But as I write this, my phone is just as dry as the Sahara desert, I don’t have time for pets let alone a child, and I’m still paying that good ol’ rent.

What happened? How did I get here? I had it all mapped out! And when I say all…..I do mean ALL! Right down to the career I would have, what I wanted my child’s name to be, and how many bedrooms would be in my house. Seriously, I wrote it all down thinking that this would come into fruition by the age of 25. But as you may have noticed…..I’m two years past my deadline without any of the above.

Up until some days ago, I felt like a failure; I had a case of what I like to call the blues. I drew this conclusion from looking at all of my peers on social media getting engaged/married, having babies, and closing on homes. Having family members constantly asking me about marriage and children didn’t help either. I even had a guy ask me, “What’s wrong with you? All of your friends are getting married and you are still single. You’ll be 30 soon!” While he was joking, I began to wonder what WAS wrong with me?! What did I, Candice L. Edrington, do wrong along the way that didn’t afford me these things?

As I became more and more frustrated, God spoke to me. And then it all became clear. I wouldn’t have been able to handle all of that had He given it to me when I wanted it. God’s delay is not necessarily His denial, it’s simply a way of saying not yet! I have faith that I will have all of the desires of my heart when the time is right. That time is just not now….and that’s ok. That’s completely ok.

So you see, if things had of happened my way……I wouldn’t be in my third year of teaching on the collegiate level, I wouldn’t be preparing to write my second book, and I would probably be divorced by now (because there is no one that I met before the age of 25 that I could see myself marrying or procreating with). I wouldn’t have some of the awesome experiences and relationships that I cherish so much, and I also wouldn’t be the Candice that I am today had everything gone my way.

That’s not to say that people who are married with children can’t accomplish their goals, I just know that for ME, having what I wanted….when I wanted it……would have conflicted with where I am at this point in life, and what I’m trying to do. I do want to be married, own a home, and have children…….it just wasn’t in God’s plan for me to do all of that by 25. There’s an old saying that says if you want to make God laugh….show Him your plan! Man oh man, did He have a huge, gut-wrenching laugh when I planned out my own life. I mean, one of those laughs where He laughed so hard until tears came out!

Dear reader, if you’re like I once was……experiencing the late 20’s blues, comparing your life to those around you, trying to figure out why your plan failed, or even listening to what society tells you should be happening at this point in your life……I encourage you to take a look at all the things you’ve accomplished thus far. Look at where you are right now. Stop comparing your life to others. You’re exactly where God wants you to be. For His own purposes. Everyone’s blessings are not meant for you. What He has for you IS for YOU! God blesses you how and when He sees fit. So, be patient. Sit back. Enjoy the ride. Trust God. He’s intentional….your time is coming!

Hello 27  🙂

12 Comments on The Late 20’s Blues

  1. Nice piece.. I admire your courage and strenght..

  2. Jeremiah 29:11- For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    Sooooo true and can definitely relate! Thanks for sharing!

  3. This blog was very timely because I was just having this conversation with someone the other day!! I agree God’s timing is the best timing. Denial doesn’t mean no…thanks for sharing!! I enjoyed your first blog!! Keep sharing!!

  4. Sista girl I love it! Such words of encouragement. Even for me. Love you and keep being and doing you!! ❤️

  5. Latoya S. Rawls | October 12, 2015 at 1:07 am |

    My Dear Sister!!
    Be of good courage! You are NOT alone…Thank God you are staying in HIS WILL. Trust me….it is NO fun…when you step outside of it. Stay there..keep being beautiful..sweet…faithful..and about His business. He Is ABLE!!

  6. Good stuff! Keep sharing professor!

  7. Well neighbor I feel like you have stolen my story. I am 36 now and in the next month I will be 37. I had my life planned out and was dating the man I thought would be my husband and the father of my children

  8. Well neighbor I feel like you have stolen my story. I am 36 now and in the next month I will be 37. I had my life planned out and was dating the man I thought would be my husband and the father of my children

  9. Well neighbor I feel like you have stolen my story. I am 36 now and in the next month I will be 37. I had my life planned out and was dating the man I thought would be my husband and the father of our children but I’m single with no children. I went through a period where you have a lot of questions but I thank God for the relationship I have with him because he taught me a lot going through those trials and tribulations. Remember always that God knows best

  10. Bravo for you! You have it all figured out. Our time is not God’s time. You are still young and full of life. Sadly, society puts these timetables in place and when we don’t meet them, we become anxious. Trust God’s word. He may not come when you want Him, but He is always on time. Look back over your shoulder and reflect on your past. Has He failed you yet? Don’t count time make time count. One lesson God teaches you is patience so wait on God. Philippians 4:6 Don’t be anxious about anything… Present your requests to the Lord. NIV

  11. “Everyone’s blessings are not meant for you.” Beautifully written and so true! Great read!

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